Tuesday, November 17, 2009

ANY THOUGHTS ON THIS ONE.
HOW LONG DO YOU HAVE TO BE MARRIED TO FEEL MARRIED?  

10 comments:

MKL said...

I'm waiting for Adamantixx to answer this. This is a topic where I can't give a good answer, because I was never married :)

ZACL said...

LOL- MKL

The question was originally, and recently, posed by an elderly gentleman.

This question could apply to 'steady relationships' too. e.g. How long do you have to be in a steady relationship to call it steady?

flightplot said...

That surely depends on the people themselves! It could be straightaway or sadly maybe really never! Flighty xx

zewt said...

negative 1 year, if you have already been staying together...

adamantixx said...

a very good question and i'd say it takes a good while before it actually sinks in that you're actually married...i much prefer to be half of a couple rather than a single spare part!

ZACL said...

Hello Mr F. Congratulations on your awards!

Indeed, there are so many variables, human nature being nigh impossible to quantify in such matters. I wonder what a mean average would look like, if there were enough people who might attempt to answer the question.

Conditionally speaking, and allowing for individuals and their unique circumstances, I guess I concur with you.
xx

ZACL said...

Hi Zewt... negative + time period... That's an unusual response. Is this a countdown mode?

ZACL said...

In the situation in which the question was originally posed, Ax, I would hazard a guess, that your answer might be close to the truth for the elderly questioner.

In more general terms, your thoughts are also useful. Whether in a relationship, partnership, or marriage partnership, the sense of commitment and change of lifestyle do take time to 'belong' to you both. Simply stated, it takes a little time for the jelly/jello to set and take a shape. Perhaps the more mature the people are who embark upon this adventure, to use your idiom, the longer it takes to sink in.

adamantixx said...

i agree, it does take time to fully comprehend everything that's involved within married life as opposed to doing whatever you like whenever you like as single people are supposed to do...not that it was ever that way when i was single, of course.
time is required to really adapt to each others' little ways, no true, deep sense of appreciation can ever be instant.

ZACL said...

Your last point, Ax, is particularly important. I wonder how many people take that bit of time to form a meaningful friendship which, is the base of a successful relationship.

When you are the age that this man is, (and the lady who is now his wife) I guess time takes on a different meaning. Perhaps, that's where the eventual answer to his question, in his circumstances, will lie.